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Repeat after me:
I CAN NOT DO IT ALONE.
You’ll want to. You’ll trick yourself into thinking, Yes, God made me different than everyone else and I can handle everything on my own. You’ll push yourself to stay up later or stress over every little detail of a project. But the result, no matter which direction you take, is always the same.
You’ll get burned out.
Your business will hit a glass ceiling.
Your conversations with God will feel more desperate than hopeful.
Because, at the end of the day, God did not create us to be alone.
That’s why it’s so important to find an accountability partner. Someone, or a group of people, that can help you stay accountable for the habits you wish to create.
Knowing that someone is watching you can be a powerful motivator. If you don’t follow through, maybe these people will view you as lazy or untrustworthy. Suddenly you’re not only failing to uphold your promises to yourself, but also failing to uphold your commitments to others.
Find someone who will hold you accountable.
What's Scripture Say?
“God didn’t set us up for an angry rejection but for salvation by our Master, Jesus Christ. He died for us, a death that triggered life. Whether we’re awake with the living or asleep with the dead, we’re alive with him! So speak encouraging words to one another. Build up hope so you’ll all be together in this, no one left out, no one left behind. I know you’re already doing this; keep on doing it.”
1 Thessalonians 9-11 (NIV)
Accountability isn’t about having someone in your life keeping you from failing. Relationships that require policing don’t work. In reality, someone who is holding you accountable is more like a coach or a cheerleader. Helping you to become the best version of yourself.
The job of your accountability partner is offering you outside perspective, not making you feel worse about yourself. On the other end of the spectrum, it’s not their job to change you or to make you a better person. You’re responsible for that.
Accountability is merely a resource to help you.
Now, before you go out and start choosing people to become your Gandolf the Grey, there are a few things you need to figure out.
1. Find someone that you know…just not that well.
When looking for accountability, you need to look for someone you respect, trust, and someone who has genuine faith. You don’t want to pick some random stranger but you don’t need to choose a best friend either.
For this relationship to work, you’ll need to be able to speak honestly, and sometimes, having a close relationship can hurt the vulnerability.
2. Don’t call it accountability.
The last thing you want to do is approach someone by saying, “Want to keep me accountable?” Again, this goes back to that policing mentality. You’re not looking for someone to keep you out of trouble or tell you what you’re doing wrong. You’re not looking for a therapist. You’re looking for a relationship that can be a two-way street.
3. Make it a priority.
Accountability needs to be a priority in your life. Make a mandatory recurring meeting time. No exceptions. Guard this holy time.
Today, may you find a relationship that doesn’t police you but champions alongside you. May you enter into that holy connection between humans and speak life into each other’s lives.